Friday, September 23, 2011

Busy busy bee!

What a crazy few weeks I've had! I'm sorry for the lack of blogging lately- I seriously have not had much free time recently. The past two weeks have had major activities for a few of my projects.

I've spent every morning (and a good part of every afternoon) since last Wednesday in a conference room at the Top Tower Hotel meeting with our 10 RPOs (Rwandan Partner Organizations. (If you are counting, you realize I still have 2 more meetings to go!) Each day has been spent helping them create their work plans and budgets for the last year of a USAID funded project BCSM (Behavior Change and Social Marketing) project. As we are all well aware of our flailing economy, funding from many donors has been reduced which is a challenge in creating new budgets. So this year instead of just showing up and starting a work plan and budget from scratch, we gave each RPO a budget amount and told them to draft a plan. Our individual meetings have been to polish the budgets and plans to work within our decreased amount and time period. I have been on an emotional roller coaster over the past two weeks from being ecstatic with organizations whose calculations and plans fit perfectly into what we asked to frustration with those who are sticklers on one last thing that "cannot" be removed. One thing I can say is that I have definitely learned the art of negotiation. I also really had a chance to spend time with the leaders of each RPO individually which made me feel more like part of the team (minus the rapid fire Kinyarwanda which at times makes me feel even more like an outsider). My supervisor was not able to attend these meetings as she hoped so it makes me feel good to show her that I (and another co-worker) can get this done in a timely and accurate manner.

Aside from working with the RPOs, I've been busy working with 12+ (as you see from some of my previous posts). At the same time that I have been working with the RPOs, we are doing refresher training for the mentors in each district. I left Kigali last Friday morning for Huye (in the South) to attend the end of the refresher training and help out at the actual 12+ training event. Despite the cold, rainy weather, the girls had a blast and this is the happiest I have seen the girls at a training to date. They were all singing and dancing and cheering and having a blast. It made my heart smile. On the back end, ie the M&E team, things are starting to get more organized but its still a little chaotic. A database is now in the works which will make a significant improvement in updating forms and being able to calculate data more accurately. We've also reviewed all of the questions asked during pre and post tests to re-evaluate what we are asking. As a pilot program, we are constantly re-evaluating what is working, what we can do to improve the program, and how to make the documentation process simpler for the girls and for ourselves. Despite the challenges, I am really enjoying this project. A new intern is arriving next month whose main job is M&E for this project which should be really good. I'm hoping that I will still have a role in 12+ once she arrives since it is so rewarding for me.

Next week I'll be meeting with the final 2 RPOs, finalizing all of the budgets and work plans, and then doing a refresher training in Musanze (the North of Rwanda-- think Gorillas in the Mist area). This time I should be at the training for the whole time. I'm leading the M&E tools part of the training which I have managed to prepare in between meeting with RPOs, data entry for 12+, editing creative briefs for our website, and assisting with our transition to a local NGO.

Outside of work I went to trivia on Monday and my team came in 2nd place! I've been wanting to get 1st or 2nd place since I arrived in June and finally it happened! Our prize was our drink bill removed. I realized that I should have ordered more than just a bottle of water but free is free!

I've started doing exercise videos after work which give me more energy and are a good release from sitting down all day. I've been mixing Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred with Zumba videos and P90X. It's also kept me from going out spending money which is good since I spent a fortune over the last few weeks for my friends'  departure dinners.

Tonight I went out to happy hour at the Marines- this time they opened early and had badminton set up, the pool open, and a Mr. Chips booth (a new restaurant that is the closest to a McDonalds that you can find in Rwanda). The owner makes fresh cheeseburgers, chicken burgers, hot dogs, and even pulled pork, all served with french fries (chips). Apparently they also have fish and chips. After being here for a few months, it is the closest taste to home and a welcomed meal. It was nice to sit and relax, have a burger and a drink, and
start off the weekend. Tomorrow we start the third 12+ training module and then its on to movie night at Heaven. Have a great weekend!

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Wedding!

First of all, I apologize in advance for the blurry photos. These were all taken on my iphone and it was dark and lots of movement. Since I was in the wedding, my photos are all from getting dressed and the party afterwards. In Rwanda, people can have up to 3 weddings--a civil wedding (ie signing the papers), a traditional wedding, and a church wedding (like our own American weddings). The one I attended (and was in!) was a traditional wedding which I am told is the least boring. I personally didn't think the wedding was at all boring and I had a blast! My co-worker's youngest sister got married and my co-worker was the matron of honor. My position in all this was kind of like an usher, or a service person. The traditional outfit, called Mushanana consists of a long skirt that you tie around your waist, a strapless top and a long piece of fabric that hangs over one shoulder. It slightly reminds me of a toga. So all of the service girls (I think there were 6 of us total) wore either a gold top with green Mushanana or a green top with gold Mushanana. My role once the wedding started was to serve drinks to "the old people." So here's how it all went down:

12:00  Rain starts

12:30  Get picked up by my friend, her husband, and the bride.

12:45   Arrive at wedding site (house of the bride's brother). The yard has been transformed with 3 large tents, two facing each other and one at the end of the yard. The two facing each other are reserved for the bride's side and the groom's side. The tents are white lined with bright green and gold, the wedding colors. Beneath the tents are rows of chairs and a head table in the front row. The third tent has a table with four chairs designated for the bride, groom, matron of honor and best man. 

1:30     Put on clothes, the tailor made my top a little too tight so the bride's oldest sister cut a few threads so I could breathe. And here I am in the complete Mushanana!

Getting ready!



Oldest sister giving instructions

The Bride calming her nerves before the big day!

Bride's older sister getting beautiful!


Matron of honor (my co-worker), Looks fabulous!

Bridesmaids getting ready


 2:00- 7:00  The wedding officially starts. A few minutes before, a man introduces himself to me as Mark. He tells me I need a Rwandan name and I am officially named Uwera. According to him, the name means "very brown" which I found hysterical. Apparently it also means "holy" and today at work someone else told me it can mean "perfect."  After the master of ceremonies started the ceremony I was directed to grab a tray with 2 champagne classes and a pitcher of liquid which I determined to be tonic water. I then walked in the rain to the groom's family, hoping the whole time that I wouldn't trip on my skirt, drop the tray, and ruin the wedding. Luckily I successfully made it over to the table to then have the father (?) say something to me in Kinyarwanda. All I could think to say was the greeting that I know, Amakuru- how are you? I was then escorted, with an umbrella this time, to the bride's family and passed off more drinks. Then I walked back to the house and was congratulated for successfully fulfilling my role. I think many of the guests were surprised (and entertained) to see a muzungu participating in the wedding but I had a blast.  Throughout the rest of the wedding I served guests drinks as they came in late and watched the ceremony. Basically the families joked around with each other and made each other do silly things in order to "prove" the seriousness of the request to marry. One of the men had to sing and I'm sure do other things that I missed because of my lack of Kinyarwanda. There was also a lot of traditional dancing and singing which was fun to watch. At one point, they called anyone who wanted to go up and sing or entertain. After the wedding, people lined up for a feast and the families said goodbye. Those of us who were left danced and drank wine and celebrated and boy were people into dancing.
Another co-worker who attended the wedding.









Drinking wine











My new BFFs!



The Bride getting her groove on!






Sisters dancing the night away




Favorite picture! This is the oldest sister's son. He was showing off his moves!



Mother of the Bride



9:30    The party ended and we said our farewells after a fun and exhausting day.